DEAR AMY: My mother passed away recently, and my sisters and I are planning her “celebration of life” gathering.Mom was a loving and generous woman with seven siblings. The one surviving sister hadn’t spoken to Mom in over 20 years. She says mean, destructive things to all her nieces and nephews and their children. She has caused so much hurt that I have been asked to send her a note telling her not to attend.What should I say? “You haven’t spoken to my mother in over 20 years — not to mention your malicious, judgmental ways. So why would you want to come to her funeral?”Please help me find the words. — Hurting Daughter Continue Reading “Ask Amy”